A true friend will have your best interest at all times. That true friend will never put you down, especially in front of other people. It took me a long time to come to terms that some people are simply mean spirited and it is best to stay away from them.
I think everyone would like to have at least one person he or she can call a true friend. After being verbally abused by an individual that I thought was a friend, I realize it is best to re-evaluate the genuine attributes of what a friend is supposed to have. You know, someone does not care for you when he or she starts badmouthing you to your own children. In my opinion, this is the ultimate sign that person was never really a friend but a foe.
I also believe we all make mistakes and may say something that may offend others. I must admit I am guilty of offending friends and the best thing to do is to apologize. However, making a habit of saying ill things about others is not a way to build friendship.
One must be a friend before you can have a friend. What do you do, if you have gone out of your way to be a loyal friend and still the other person does not return the same loyalty towards you? Should you end the friendship? Every situation is unique. In my case, I had no choice but to end the friendship. It is hard to teach an adult right from wrong. Some people mistake kindness for weakness and use it to control and inflict harm to others. An individual who derives pleasure in putting others down is one with low self-esteem. There is not much one can do to change a person with character issues.
How do you know whether you have a True Friend? The answer to that question is very simple. A true friend will always be there for you. He or she will not badmouth you to your own children. He or she will be there in good and bad times. I hope you will experience the joy of finding a true friend .