Archive for June, 2012

How do you know whether you have a True Friend?

A true friend will have your best interest at all times.   That true friend will never put you down, especially in front of other people.  It took me a long time to come to terms that some people are simply mean spirited and it is best to stay away from them.

I think everyone would like to have at least one person he or she can call a true friend.  After being verbally abused by an individual that I thought was a friend, I realize it is best to re-evaluate the genuine attributes of what a friend is supposed to have.  You know, someone does not care for you when he or she starts badmouthing you to your own children.  In my opinion, this is the ultimate sign that person was never really a friend but a foe.

I also believe we all make mistakes and may say something that may offend others.  I must admit I am guilty of offending friends and the best thing to do is to apologize. However, making a habit of saying ill things about others is not a way to build friendship.

One must be a friend before you can have a friend.  What do you do, if you have gone out of your way to be a loyal friend and still the other person does not return the same loyalty towards you?  Should you end the friendship? Every situation is unique. In my case, I had no choice but to end the friendship.  It is hard to teach an adult right from wrong. Some people mistake kindness for weakness and use it to control and inflict harm to others. An individual who derives pleasure in putting others down is one with low self-esteem.  There is not much one can do to change a person with character issues.

How do you know whether you have a True Friend? The answer to that question is very simple. A true friend will always be there for you. He or she will not badmouth you to your own children. He or she will be there in good and bad times.   I hope you will experience the joy of finding a true friend .

Inspired by First Lady Michelle Obama

On June 20th 2012,  I joined a couple of friends to go listen to First Lady Michelle Obama.  Arapahoe High School is  located in my attendance area.  My two oldest children graduated from Arapahoe and my youngest will be a senior there next year.  Arapahoe High School is one of the top high schools in the Denver metro area.  This is the number one reason we moved to the area back in 1989.

The school’s gym was packed like sardines, but we managed to get a decent seat and I even shook Michelle’s hand.  I wanted to share the post I wrote with all of you.  Enjoy!   I would love to hear your comments.  I was able to take a close up picture of Michelle after she shook my hand.

Inspirations come in all shapes and sizes. Today, I listened to first lady Michelle Obama give a speech that hugely inspired me. Her speech made me stop to think about my current situation. Her words resonated well with me because it was as if she was talking to me directly.

I sat a few feet away from the first lady as she said, “President Obama wants to help make college affordable for all Americans.” As fate would have it, the first lady gave her speech at Arapahoe High School, which is the high school my daughter graduated from in 2008. My daughter just graduated from Pepperdine University in last April, and I am very proud of her accomplishments, but even with a substantial scholarship, she still has a large number of loans she has to pay back. Honestly, I felt very bad because I encouraged her to attend Pepperdine, but after listening to first lady Michelle Obama, I realized I should not feel guilty for encouraging my daughter to attend a top notch university. I agree with Ms.Obama: as Americans we should not have to go into a huge amount of debt to send our children to college. College should be affordable for all who want to attend. I also think students who have completed their college in a reasonable amount of time should not have to incur a high interest rate on their student loans.

Ms.Obama made a second profound statement that jolted my thinking. This time around, I had to hold back tears as memories of my youngest son flashed back to me like neon lights. She said, “President Obama wants every American to have health insurance. No family should have to go bankrupt in order to provide emergency health care for their family.”

Again, for a second time, I concur with first lady Michelle Obama. There is nothing more terrifying than for a mother to watch her child come near death because of a medical emergency. My son’s illness was the worst curve ball ever thrown my way. If  I had not had health insurance, the one night my son had to spend in the ICU would have been enough to bankrupt me. I am sure the total of nine days he was in the hospital added up very quickly.

I am glad president Obama is relentless in his desire to help make health insurance available for all Americans. The naysayers may label him a socialist, but he is only doing what should have been done a long time ago.

The words of Michelle Obama will reside in my heart and soul for a very long time. I am very fortunate that it took me five minutes to drive from my house to go listen to such inspirational words.

Book Review: For the Birds by Aaron Paul Lazar

I love reading paranormal mysteries. For the Birds, by Aaron Paul Lazar will take you on a wild ride down the mystery wonderland. Wow! The plot, twists and turns will definitely keep you guessing until the very end.

The two main characters Marcella and Quinn will enchant you with their chemistry. The author does a great job of bringing to light who they are. The following description helped me visualize who Quinn is:

“My beautiful husband had reminded me of an Indian brave on the cusp of a great adventure. This was mostly thanks to his Seneca mother, who bequeathed her dark skin and strong Native American features to her only son. His clear turquoise eyes had darted with purpose–and they were the only part of his appearance that came courtesy of his long dead English playwright father.”

The number one reason why I like reading Lazar is because he has a unique ability to write well-rounded and enjoyable books that appeal to my emotions. His descriptions help the reader feel and experience the action. Here are a few examples:

  • “The van chugged along the shoulder like a tortoise mired in molasses.”
  • “The venom in his voice snapped me out of my dazed state.”
  • “I watched and listened with my heart whomping like a helicopter’s rotor.”

Aaron Paul Lazar is one author that will not disappoint the reader. His unique style will draw you in from the beginning. I started reading For the Birds, while vacationing in Cabo San Lucas, and declined to go on a whale tour so I can finish the novel. If you are like me and love to read a well-written paranormal mystery, I highly recommend For the Birds.

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Creative play is very important because it contributes to the cognitive, physical, social, and emotional well-being of a child. After reading Clara Smith’s book, Elliott and Anastacia, I am reminded of the true benefits children can reap from play. An optimal developmental milieu should be balanced with academics and plenty opportunities for free play

Elliott and Anastacia are cuddly koalas that do everything together. It is a very powerful story that chronicles two friends doing what every child should do in order to develop cognitively and socially. I love the simplicity of the story. The story paints a genuine picture in the lives of two close friends.

Pre-school teachers, parents, grandmothers can use this well written book to teach children about the value of sharing and letting others take turn.
I love the following lines in the book that shows clearly this important lesson:

“Sometimes they do things Anastacia enjoys more. Like looking at the stars, Or painting pictures.

“Sometimes, they do things Elliott enjoys more,like playing soccer.”

The one lesson that comes to mind from reading Clara Smith’s book is parents today should get back to the very basic. It is certainly a great idea to let a child be a child. It starts with providing that child plenty of time to branch out and play, play, play. This activity is free and the benefits are numerous.

If you are a parent, pre-school teacher, and grandmother looking for a great book with a valuable lesson, I highly recommend Clara Smith’s book.

Clara Smith is one of the unique authors who can both write and illustrate her own book. Her colorful and carefree illustrations brings the story to life.

 Go Here to purchase  ELLIOTT AND ANASTACIA


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